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You are so tired of going to social events on your own (real talk).

You are frustrated that you haven’t met someone you click with.

You can’t figure out why it didn’t work out with someone you liked.

You feel like you know what you should be doing, but actually doing it is the challenge.


You are ready to make a plan to get results, like you do in every other area of your life, but you don’t know how to do this with dating. 

(don’t worry – I do!)

If you answered yes to any of the questions, then it’s time to take action.

Spotlight Coaching is like having a personal trainer for your love life – someone who keeps you accountable to staying on track, getting results, and using proper form so you avoid injury! 

And, to remind you not to settle for less when finding the right person feels impossible.

I am offering you a year of Spotlight coaching so you get get the ongoing support and answers you need to find love and keep it. 

I’m a Relationship Coach and I’ve been doing this for over a decade. In that time I have worked with thousands of singles who have achieved real results. I’m consumed with empowering people to be successful in love, dating and relationships.

I have the bigger conversations that change lives. I’ve been where you are and not in a vague, ‘Oh, I get it,’ kind of way. I’ve seriously been where you are and my motto is that it’s never too late to have the life you have imagined!

Debbie Rivers

You are smart, savvy and you want quick results!

I know that you are successful already in your life but it is often just that half a step you are missing or that 1% change you need.

I cut through the crappy dating advice that is out there that doesn’t work! You know all the weird stuff you are told you should do that doesn’t even work. I give you practical answers on what to do when it comes to all things dating and relationships.

I know that you didn’t think it would be this hard! And you definitely don’t want to waste your valuable time making the same mistakes again.

I understand how you feel. I have been there too and helped many singles just like you get results.

Truth? Love is not the Problem!

You know all those stories you’ve been telling yourself about how you’ve missed your chance, that you aren’t good looking enough, that you’re too old, too fat, too grumpy, too intimidating or too much to find love?

Well, they’re BS, and it’s those stories that are the REAL problem.

I’m going to show you how and why and what you can do to turn this around!

This way of working together may be exactly what you need if…

  • We’ve worked together previously in a shorter program and you wish you had me in your pocket now, especially when…
  • You can’t bear the thought of putting up your profile again (I’ll get you to do it)
  • You have to decide: Swipe right or left? (I’ll help you spot red flags and green lights, and keep you from falling into the frustrating pattern of wrong-fit partners)
  • You need help troubleshooting why you can’t make it to the second date (I’ll help you see how you’re being perceived, and what you can adjust to get to date 2, 3, 4, 5… and beyond)
  • You’ve got a girlfriend/boyfriend/partner who you’re excited about (finally!), but you’ve realized that’s where the real work begins (I’ll help you communicate better so you don’t sabotage a good thing).

The fact is, it’s time-consuming to find your right-fit partner. Like searching for a needle in a haystack of heartbreak. It’s easy to lose hope, give up, or settle. You’ve probably paid for e-harmony and realized it’s where singles go to die, and even the thought of having to sift through each dating site for the one that will “work” is daunting.

Then there are the lingering questions:

  • Why didn’t he call back?
  • Why didn’t she respond when I suggested a second date?
  • Am I doing something wrong?
  • Am I reading the situation correctly?
  • Is this person just one more in a long line of narcissists I’ve dated? (Hello pattern!)

There’s so much self-doubt in the dating process, and that’s why it helps to have an outside authority who can give you some healthy perspective, and help you find your path forward.

I created Spotlight coaching so I can be the coach-in-your-pocket when you need me.

Because dating is hard.

Here’s the deal:

Spotlight coaching is a year-long program in which you can book 20-minute sessions with me whenever you need them.

That’s a year of on-call coaching via zoom/phone to help you in the moments when dating is hard, confusing, frustrating, or… successful.

That’s 12 months of accountability, support and advice (hey, you’d hire a business coach to build a successful business. Why not a dating coach for a successful love life?).

That’s four seasons to work through the practical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and surface aspects of what’s keeping you single (hey, some people really need a good haircut and a wardrobe update!).

This program is designed for people who are ready to take love as seriously as any Big Life Goal.

It’s very likely you will meet someone in the year we work together.


And that’s when you really need a coach in your pocket. Because when we enter into a loving relationship, we are challenged in new ways. Often, we come face to face with beliefs, patterns, habits, wounds and fears that put us in danger of self-sabotaging a perfectly good relationship.

I know, because I’ve been there too.


Loving relationships present wonderful opportunities for growth if you can avoid your self-made pitfalls. I’ll be with you to help you with real-life advice to help you evaluate your reactions, and communication techniques that deescalate sticky situations, so you can have productive conversations with your partner.

That said…

There’s a catch to the Unlimited 20-minute sessions.

Because part of my job is to hold you accountable for achieving the love life results you’re after, I have a rule: You may only book your next 20-minute session after you have acted on the advice from the previous session.

You know me, I won’t sugar-coat the truth. I know for a fact that:

If you don’t want to be single, you don’t have to be. But you do have to commit to changing what isn’t working.

Stop wasting time on men or women who will never give you what you want.

  • Stop the cycle of bad dates.
  • Stop sabotaging good relationships.
  • And stop being so hard on yourself.
  • You are worthy of being loved.

Let’s make that happen.

Spotlight Coaching 2021


12 months coaching support to give you the best way to create and maintain the relationship you want.


John, WA

I was frustrated that I wasn’t getting results with the girls I wanted to date. I tried watching YouTube videos, which gave me information but didn’t really change things for me.

I decided I would do Spotlight Coaching so I had the support to get real results. I started coaching with Debbie on how to be more successful when it comes to meeting and talking to women. I honestly can’t believe the real difference it has made to my whole life and not just dating. I listened to Debbie’s advice and to start with didn’t believe what she was saying.

Debbie gave me a clear, honest perspective on women and what will work and what won’t. I was cynical but went out and tested her advice and she was right. As a result, my confidence has grown and things have changed. I am now confident talking to girls and that has changed everything for me. In fact, I am now in a relationship with the type of girl I always wanted!


Lily, USA

Relationship coaching with Debbie honestly changed my dating life immensely. I am not typically the type of person to seek coaching, but meeting and working with Debbie was such a blessing! She has a clear breath of experience, as we did most of our work over the phone/skype, because I don’t live in Australia, but still got results.

Her guidance focuses on internal growth, from an authentic, individualized approach. In my case, I wasn’t interested in attracting more people but attracting the RIGHT person, which she honed in on immediately. We took a deep dive into examining my patterns, motivations and behaviours towards relationships, and from this understanding, I believe I was able to effect lasting change.

I cannot recommend her enough, and ultimately I believe her guidance led me to the happy relationship I am in now! If you are hesitant, go for it – one of the best things that has happened to me 🙂


Here’s the boring qualification stuff, because I know that matters too!

I am an internationally accredited Relationship Coach. and I have spent time learning everything I need to know through study and life experiences. In fact, I’m continually learning the latest advances in dating, relationships as well as how your brain works, especially when it comes to love, so I can give you cutting edge tools.

My unique approach looks at your conscious and unconscious behaviours and how they get in the way of opening your heart and letting someone in. My approach applies behavioural science, neuroscience, communication and attraction strategies that will give you everything you need.

I am a Certified Practitioner in Coaching, Completed Level 1 and 2 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programming Coach, a Certified Master mBIT Coach (Europe) and a Certified Matchmaker with the Matchmakers Institute in New York.

Where we’ll meet

We will hang out in a zoom room together. Our initial session will be 1 hour, so we get to know each other and then each session will be 20 minutes.

Each 20-minute call will be to work through your particular challenge. Let’s call it a roadblock!

Whenever you have a roadblock question you will book a 20 min coaching call with a link and we will clear it within that time frame. You will get a cheat sheet from the meeting and have a task to complete on the roadblock.

Before you can book another coaching call you MUST take action on the first task.

When you complete the task you can book another coaching call. Providing you have completed the task, the 20 min coaching calls are unlimited over the 12 month period. You will also have email access to me.

What you’ll get/learn

You will have your own personal coach at your side throughout your dating and relationship challenges for one WHOLE year. You will get consistent valuable advice and support that isn’t about making you feel better but about getting real results. You also get a unique insight into how the opposite sex really thinks.

You will learn about yourself and how you work so you get your results fast.

We will clear your roadblocks quickly, take action and ensure you are held accountable for taking action and achieving those important goals.

You’ll have a collective record of your roadblocks and how you easily clear them for the future. It will be a record book of YOU and the 12 months of sessions will become your rule book to taking action and overshooting your goals.

I Will...

  • Help you walk away from each session with a clear understanding of your blind spots.
  • Give you clear actions to take and personalised tips to make your dating life fun and easy.

Over the last decade, I have worked with many people to achieve the success they had only imagined.

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