Ditch Boring! Fun First Messages to Send Guys on Dating Apps!

First Messages Count!

Hey ladies, ever feel like your dating app messages are about as exciting as watching paint dry? Yeah, me too. We’ve all gotten those “Hey” or “How’s your day?” boring messages that make you wanna scream.

But guess what? You’re not the only one! Guys get those same boring first messages too especially on Bumble.  So, how do we stand out from the crowd and start a decent conversation (and maybe even a date)?

Here’s the thing: there’s no magic “formula” to send the perfect first messages. The key is to be YOU, the awesome, witty, and woman you are! Let your personality shine through and ditch the one-size-fits-all approach.

But wait, before we start, let’s keep a few things in mind for the first messages:

• Short & Sweet: Guys aren’t usually big fans of novels in a text message. Keep your first messages short, 10-20 words is ideal.  Remember, they don’t need a blow-by-blow account of your day. You want to create interest and a little mystery. Leave him wishing he knew more about you.
• Personalize it: Use his name it makes it seem personal and builds a connection! It shows you looked at his profile (bonus points for referencing something specific!).
• Fun & Flirty: Dating is supposed to be fun, right? Put some humour or a playful vibe to grab his attention in your first messages.
• Conversation Starters: Don’t just ask dead-end questions. Spark a conversation that he can respond to!  If you are telling him something, don’t forget to say, ‘How about you?
• GIFs are your BFFs: A funny GIF can be a great way to add personality and break the ice.
• Timing matters – Sundays or early in the week are great times to message. 

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Okay, now that we’ve got the basics covered, let’s get creative! Here are a few ideas to get those message juices flowing:

1. The Smile Swipe

Remember that warm, inviting smile you give someone cute across the room? Channel that energy in your message!

Example: “Hi, Jake, see this message as a quick smile, with a little longer than normal eye contact 🙂

2. First Messages – Emoji’s

Ask him to describe himself using just 3 emojis! This is a fun way to learn about his personality and break the ice. Just remember to ask him about his choices and share yours too!

Example: “So, [Name], tell me about yourself in 3 emojis!  My turn next!”

3. First Messages – GIF it Up!

Find a GIF that perfectly captures your message or mood. There’s a GIF for everything these days, so get creative and have fun!

4. Two Truths and a Lie (Dating App Edition!)

If he has this prompt on his profile, use it! Even if he doesn’t it is a fun way to get to know each other and spark a conversation.

Example 1: Matt – let’s play two truths and a lie. Tag, you’re it!

Example 2: “Hey Matt,  two truths and a lie. I’ll go first! 1. I can speak fluent French. 2. I once won a pie-eating contest. 3. I’m afraid of heights. Guess which, your turn next!”

Example 3: If he has this as a profile prompt have fun with your guess and tease him a little. 

5. Multiple Choice – Your New BFF

Who doesn’t love a good multiple-choice question? Remember to keep it light and fun!

Example: “Sunday Funday priorities: A) Catching up on work B) Hitting the gym C) Netflix marathon D) Long, indulgent lunch ️ E) Something else entirely! Spill the beans, [Name].”

6. Compliment in a Message

Guys love compliments just as much as we do! Throw in a dash of humour to make it extra playful.

Example: “Swiped right because A) 60% your amazing smile B) 40% your dog is ridiculously cute …or was it the other way around? ” (P.S. If he doesn’t have a dog, swap it out for something else in his profile!)

7. Deep Dives are for Later

It’s tempting to get into the big questions right away, but save that for when you meet! Keep things light and fun for now.

Remember: The goal is to start a conversation, not write a dissertation. If you hit it off, he’ll eventually ask you out. But if things are dragging, don’t be afraid to nudge things along with a playful message like:

• “Can’t wait to see if you’re as funny in real life! “
• “Dying to know if you’re as easy to talk to in person as you seem online! “

There you have it, some practical ways to ditch the boring messages.

If you would like to see more texting examples you can read 3 Startling Examples of Online Messaging that Gets Results. Or if you want more personalised help, why not work with me?

Debbie x